Monday, June 30, 2008

life is short, live big

i wrote this when my internet was on the fritz a couple of weeks ago. it turns out the lady was a con artist looking to scam money off the trusting and giving people of our hospital. it doesn't change the message though, read on.
June 5, 2008
A lady I work with told me last night that she has cancer; Colo-rectal cancer that has metastasized to her liver, ovaries and now possibly bone. She says the prognosis is bad, 6 months to a year at the most. She will leave behind a husband who has parkinsons and severe asthma and no medical insurance and their 18year old daughter. She is working on her list of things to do before she dies, on it so far is taking up smoking, which she’s done and cutting and dying her hair. Another lady at work said her grandfather, after being diagnosed with terminal cancer, decided he’d always wanted a dodge ram pickup and went out and bought one that same day.
Does it make anyone other than me sad that people need to hear that they are going to die before they really start to live? Why do we feel we need to get permission? You are going to die. There, it’s said….now live your life. Don’t wait until someone tells you, because you may not get the warning. I challenge you to make your bucket list today and start doing everything that’s on it that you possibly can. Life is far too short and way to beautiful to not take advantage of the “now”. You only get one life. One chance. Don’t waste it.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

to vacay and back

it went by too fast, the time away from nebraska, the time with my family. as always the day comes when reality hits and my flight seems all too close to departure and i am wishing for more time. i am greedy now, with my time. i don't know what i enjoyed more, the sights of new york or the time with my mom and uncle, when every small joke is something to laugh at, the happy go lucky's, that's us. that will be a hard vacation to top.
my internet was down for a week or so before i left and i was having blogging withdraws, so i would come home, type and save...ready for the day my internet was working properly.
here's one from two weeks ago.
At 3am my fingers become tiny icicles. When the people in the outside world decide they’d rather sleep than annoy ER nurses and our patient load comes to a screeching halt, I start to freeze over. Lack of movement, lack of sleep, bad circulation…a problem I’ve decided isn’t a result of one but many things and this annoys me. Not the lack of patients or the lack of movement, I’m content just sitting around reading but I’m annoyed with the freezing fingers. Inevitably someone comes in, my fingers find their way to the patient’s unsuspecting skin and a comment is made, “my! your hands are so cold” or “DO YOU HAVE TO TOUCH ME WITH THOSE ICEY FINGERS?!?!”…it’s one or the other, but it’s always something. I have decided to carry gloves around with me, at work anyways. It could be 80 degrees out and I’m the nurse on the inside with the thermal shirt under her scrubs, the hoodie over them and the gloves covering her hands. You think she’s crazy, she thinks she’s smart, both of you are part right.
I bought speakers for my IPOD which I took to work to listen to during these times of utmost boredom. Today I sang “how deep is your love” at least 20 times. The song, remade by The Bird and The Bee is on the SATC soundtrack and I’ve made everyone at work listen to the whole album numerous times. I sang it without realizing how incredibly beautiful the lyrics are,
“I know your eyes in the morning sun
I feel you touch me in the pouring rain
And the moment that you wander far from me
I wanna feel you in my arms again

And you come to me on a summer breeze
Keep me warm in your love and then softly leave
And its me you need to show

Chorus:
How deep is your love
I really need to learn
cause were living in a world of fools
Breaking us down
When they all should let us be
We belong to you and me

I believe in you
You know the door to my very soul
You’re the light in my deepest darkest hour
You’re my savior when I fall
And you may not think
I care for you
When you know down inside
That I really do
And its me you need to show”
I should be asleep right now instead of copying and pasting lyrics onto my blogspot. I needed you to know that my love is deep. And my fingers….well they’re still icy cold.

Sunday, June 1, 2008

longing

eight weeks has passed and i am still in nebraska. still.... well, i don't mean to sound bummed about it, although a small part of me is. all the things that i didn't like about this place have grown on me, its size, the weather, the non-existent cute boy problem, the lack of a nice shopping area. it's warmer now, a nice change from the cold, dreariness that it has been, however, now there are tornadoes that have come in to the mix. no bueno. still, i find myself wishing i were somewhere else, somewhere new, the eight week itch has hit and i'm daydreaming myself other places. i'm going on vacay soon to NYC and that will be a nice change, one extreme to the other.
also, i watched sex and the city yesterday and was blown away with how much the characters in the movie have grown. it really reminds me of the journey i've taken thus far, how i wanted to do something for me, to live wherever the wind blew me because i could. now i just want a place to call home, somewhere near a whole foods. i want to have furniture from ikea and a porch where i can drink red wine and listen to madeleine peyroux. i want to have friends over and make them dinner and play pictionary and scrabble...because i've evolved. not that i wasn't this person before, but i'm more this person now than i was before i left corpus. i have grown into a woman and it's somewhat scary, i'll be 28 in 6 months. i'll have my 10 year high school reunion next year, i just can't believe how quickly time has passed.
i have 8 weeks left in nebraska, i'm back at square one. but it will go by faster than the first time and i will be back in texas before we know it.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

i'm still alive: part 2

it has been too long since i've let you into my world, and for that i'm sorry. i've been busy working (i really despise 5 shifts in a row-more than that is ridiculous) and keeping up with eating right, exercising and fueling my reading habit that i've had little time for much else.
life is the same here, i'm saving up money, working with people who want to gossip and gripe about the littlest things. as i see it, this is temporary and at the end of my two more months here i go home. i find very little need to become upset about things out of my control. that's the way i am, complacent. i am satisfied with where i am, with what i'm doing that unless there is a threat involving me directly, i'm happily unaware of what's going on. let them gossip. let them be upset about scheduling, i'll work with it, it's only 2 months.
i'm going on vacation to new york in june and am looking forward to spending some time in the big city, in a regular hotel. i will take lots of pictures this time because i'm skinnier than the last time i went. well, i'm trying to lose another 10lbs but we'll see, so far every time chocolate is in my face i go a little overboard.
and i guess the biggest thing is, living in a small city makes you really appreciate smaller, big cities. lincoln and corpus are comparable in size and i have learned that i don't need a million options. a million options drives me crazy and i become overwhelmed. so i'm really looking forward to going back for a couple of months. and then from there, who knows. i'd love to say i want an apartment in austin, i want to go back to school. i want to take a class on history and one on art. i want to minor in english so i can hone my writing technique. yes, eventually i'd like to write a book.
i'd love to continue to travel, i want more than anything for 3 more months in california but i should leave well enough alone. i did it, i enjoyed it, move on. what if i go back only to find it's nothing of what i remembered and be disappointed? no, i'd rather not.
let's stay on track stephanie. corpus, austin, school. this is the way it will be....i'm hoping.

Monday, May 26, 2008

i'm still alive

i know it's been awhile but just so you know, i'm still alive.
it's tornado season here in the midwest, the warning and watches are daily now from thunder storms to you guessed it...tornadoes. i'm not enjoying it, everyday i wake up and look at the sky. i've been told it will be a shade of green/yellow i will never forget.
change subject.
work is getting busier. the crazy weather is freaking people out and they are showing up with all sorts of serious complaints from respiratory to cardiac to plain, old non-urgent stuff. it's fun when the hospital is busy for a change, it makes the time go by much faster than one patient for twelve hours. i mean, reading is fun and i love that this job has allowed me to read more, but jeez. unless i've got a book that is mesmerizing, i end up staring at the other nurses for 12 hours and that gets old fast.
change subject.
i went home to corpus for a weekend to celebrate my best friends birthday. it was nice to be there for a couple of days, the weather was hot and humid but a welcomed change from the dreary wet, cold that has been the norm in nebraska (aka ne-brisk-a).
change subject.
i'm tired. i just finished working 5 shifts. before that i was in corpus. before that i was working 4 shifts (maybe 5, i can't even remember). i need a break.
i will write more when i have rested. i just wanted to let you know i'm still here.

Thursday, May 8, 2008

the good nights

these are my favorite, the nights that end in a glass of red, a good book and madeleine peyroux's voice filling the air. the nights when i'm most at ease, when i can exhale and be happy with the decisions i've made thus far.
my extension in beatrice has left me giddy at the thought of saving a little more, and the possibility of going home after this. and by home, i mean, corpus. i would like to be able to spend the last month before my sister's wedding planning and helping out, i would like to make something divine for thanksgiving dinner and not have to work at all that weekend, doing crafts with my mom and cousin, watching movies with my sister and listening to family talk. i miss our conversations. the one's about absolutely nothing and everything that leave my cheeks hurting from smiling so wide. i would like to enjoy the holidays off for once, spending the times admiring my family, who i feel i have taken for granted. traveling has been fun and quite an experience and although a part of me wants to move back to california for a little while, i think it's best if i settle down. i can vacation those places, right? all i wanted to say was that i traveled, i saw california, arizona and nebraska. and i did. i was afraid but i didn't let fear overcome me.
i am proud of all that i have done, what i have accomplished and where i have gone in the process. my goal was to pay off my bills and i'm working hard at getting that done. i will move back to corpus at the end of this contract, stay in my friend chris' apartment on the island and work when i want to to pay for my car and other expenses. maybe some weekends i'll go to the valley and work to make a little extra money (thanks Mom for the idea) and we'll see where i go from there. maybe i'll be a travel nurse but strictly for texas.
i am excited. i am ready. and most of all i can't wait to go home.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

a reason for everything

so the irvine gig didn't pan out the way i'd hoped. it didn't pan out at all actually. i'm sort of bummed and sort of relieved. they wanted me to do 6 months there and i was almost sad about it. do you believe that everything happens for a reason? that someone has a plan for us beyond our knowledge? well, i'm grateful it didn't work out. i know there is something better planned for me.
better as in, probably staying in nebraska...making the big bucks. :) saving a little more, paying off a few more bills.
on a side note, while i was working out yesterday a man hit my car while it was parked in the gym lot. i watched the whole incidence from atop the treadmill, terrified of what i'd actually witnessed. i watched as he got out and surveyed the damage, still unsure if he'd actually hit it and damaged it or just scraped it.
this is where people differ from me.
i walked out almost upset that he'd gone to drive off, he stated he needed to drive around to "cool off" but i know had i not walked out he wouldn't have come back; maybe he was hoping no one noticed. all i saw was his beat up pick up, his blue collar look, i saw his hands were shaking and i could hear in his quivering voice that he felt bad. he asked if i wanted to "swap information" and for a little while i went back and forth on the matter. the damage isn't bad, a scratch that saturn can probably buff out. in my opinion it's just a car and things could have been worse.
i called the gym after leaving, and since everyone knows everyone in this tiny town i told the gym owner to go find "steve" and tell him i wasn't reporting it after all.
call me crazy or dumb, i really don't care. i can afford to get it fixed myself. steve probably only had liability on his old, beat up truck. he looked like he could barely afford the lifestyle he was living. so i let it go.
i firmly believe in karma, do something good to someone and eventually it will come back around.
yesterday wasn't a good day. i'm hoping today is a little better.

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

does this upset you?

remember when i hated california? and when i was there, how all i wanted was to be back in texas? yeah, i know, me too.
it's funny how life turns around the way it does. because right before i left i made a strong connection with Julia, my favorite claremont/st. joseph's nurse. and well, it was different then.
now, or at least by the time i go back (wait for it) i will only be paying on my car and my student loan. i will have money to do things, vacation, save, whatever... it will be easier. it was different when all my paycheck was spoken for and i couldn't enjoy it. i will enjoy it this time.
does it seem impersonal to you if i inform everyone all at one time? that i don't email or mail certain individuals first hand to let them know (like mom and crys who know my every move before it's made) before others?
i called my recruiter with access and asked if there were any positions available in irvine, ca (where i was from april-december) and she said they'd love to have me back.
the small details are being worked out, dates to start, pay, location of apartment, et cetera.
it will no doubt be different this time. i already know the hospital, the location, the people. i know what to expect and what not to expect and i'm prepared. it's not final yet so don't start freaking out or planning your vacations. give me time to get it all situated and i will give you all the little details.
but this time...i'm excited. very excited.

Tuesday, April 29, 2008

all of a sudden

how is it that a girl dependent on diet coke, unable to make any type of food, who spends most of her money at the mall can change all at once? i tell you this...it's possible.
i've finally given up diet coke (i know, can you believe it?) and i've started taking a mutli vitamin. i am exercising daily or every other day including my new balanced eating plan. it's not a diet really, more like every meal includes whole grains, a veggie and some sort of protein. usually the snacks are fruit and dairy (the greek blueberry yogurt by oikos is now my fav!!) and i've started drinking tea with milk and honey. what's up with that? not to mention my savings account has more money than i've ever seen in it (of course, don't be impressed...i usually don't have much) but i'm getting there. AND my favorite part is...even though i don't have anywhere to make food i made hummus.
ok, don't laugh, i know hummus is merely mashed chickpeas and garlic, but hey...i'm becoming more creative. i would love to say i'm making more and soon i will, but there's only so much you can make in a microwave. i brought the george foreman but i feel a little guilty about bringing an appliance that's not approved to be in the hotel. not because it's not supposed to be here but because i'm super clumsy and could see the smoke alarm going off while using it, in turn having to explain why i was trying to make chicken and cheese quesadillas in it.
i have one month left here and i'm tempted to stay but i seriously can't survive in this hotel room. i need a stove. and a sink to wash dishes that isn't also where i do my hair (because i accidentally knocked over a glass soaking a spoon covered in peanut butter-organic- and it was all over my scrubs) and i also need a bigger trash can.
and although once june comes it will be warmer here, i need the ocean...again. so i called my recruiter and asked if irvine regional had anything posted, i may also look into northern cali (particularly in monterey) and we'll see.
one last thing...i'm a mommy now. yes, her name is blondie and she is everything i'd imagined she would be. i'm still learning about here and it's very difficult but i know eventually i'll get the hang of her.

Sunday, April 20, 2008

the good life



when i arrived in nebraska i was expecting flat land. i expected a small town with no mall or personality and figured i'd be doomed for 8 weeks. what i got was a glorified motel room with a tiny fridge and one sink (where i do my make up AND wash my dishes). the room faces the main road thru town and i figured most nights i'd hear nothing but traffic.
i have one word to describe it all, my thoughts and ideas about this city and state: misconceptions.
i was wrong.
i am truly blessed to be here, my first assignment where i'm doing something right. i came with the intention to pay off my credit cards, become a grown up and learn to appreciate money. i made sacrifices and hoped that i was doing the right thing in coming here and THAT has been the only thing i've been right about.
i work in a small ER, smaller than any i've ever worked at and i get paid more than i ever have to sit and read or watch tv for the majority of the night. the people i work with are kind and it seems that all they do is want to take care of me, their kid sister or adopted daughter. i'm the youngest in the ER but i've made an impression on them with my sense of maturity.
and let me tell you about this city. yes it's small and the mall here is depressing, but it has everything i need for survival. i have a hotel with free cable and free internet. i have a gym and a place to buy groceries that's clean and not crawling with nasty people (this wal-mart is nicer than many i've shopped in). and the big city that has a mall is no more than 30 minutes away and the drive is spectacular. and flat land?! ha! southeastern nebraska has rolling green hills for miles that are beautiful beyond belief.
i don't have much longer it seems before this will be over and then what, i have yet to find out.
here's is a picture of me and the guys from work enjoying a margarita at playa azul, our one mexican restaurant. it was an enjoyable dinner.